Well (deep) as one of the older members here (61) I'll put forth my 2 cents...I think a great deal has to do with where/how you were raised...I was born and raised in Atlanta which had a large black population and even in my younger days we had mixed relationships/marriages...(I'm mostly cau) but since Atlanta was never (by the rest of the state) considered to be a part of Ga. we were insular within ourselves...my parents were accepting progressive folks so I have to say I just accepted it...I dated a black female and we were very good friends but I never really thought about her as anyone other than "female"...
Summary...IMO depends a great deal on your exposure as a whole...
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Im a white dude and the mother of my child is nicaraguan..
We have been together going on 10 years now. Not sure who said it but I think we too are both more aware of other inter-racial couples.
We have been living in Charlotte the entire time and believe it or not I have actually experienced racism from all sides.
There was one time we went to a restaurant, were seated, and then proceeded to wait about 20 min. for service. All the while 3-4 other tables were served. I made eye contact with a few of the wait-staff and they quickly averted their eyes. We got up and walked out.
My son takes most of his looks from me, basically a mini-me with better skin tone. My GF tells me of the stares she gets when out alone with my son, people even ask her if he is hers. I can tell it bothers her, she says people look at her like she is the 'nanny'.
Anyway, it is better than it was 10 years ago and people are getting more and more used to it everyday. I think its a good thing. I also think mixed children of any ethnic origin are some of the cutest kids out there. I do worry about the cultural implications, but I know that at least my son will know where his parents came from and that its ok to love someone who is very much different than you.
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I currently am in a relationship with a black female and I can attest to also how I observe its a skewed trend for more black guys/white girls than white guys/black girls. Being in the triangle area/on a college campus, it is a lot more comfortable and we do see more couples that are white guy/black girl, but once you go to other parts of the state, this is much less likely. Also, we have gotten stares before, especially when leaving the triangle area. I was at a taco bell in the wallace area with my girlfriend and a couple of friends during a road trip and when we went to go sit down we could hear the people at the counter snickering with one another.
Luckily our parents are fine with it, and I will be moving up north for grad school which (hopefully) will be more accepting of interracial relationships. Regardless, its one of those situations which will test you at times and be uncomfortable with other people, but if you think the other person is worth it, then I don't think the shitty way society tends to think is a reason to not give it a shot.
We've passed through central before and the looks we got were more like "oh hey a white kid on campus" rather than (at least I felt) staring at the interracial aspect of it, but then again I could have read that wrong. That's an interesting question though as I only passed through there one time so never really thought about it.
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